It’s wrong to assume that a conversation is about what is said.
A background script to run
Triggered on recognition event()
The verbal attacker desires to assert their ego over the other.
If you behave outside of current norms, people will often interpret this as either the high status of trendsetting and being above what is usually expected, or low status not fitting in.
Status sensitivity is social madness because every single person is in fact unusual.
Any person is much more than even a diverse array of influences.
So I’m really not into social twittery on twit-twat and faceblobber; my summary identity is a tortoise in hare’s clothing etc etc Twitter Twiddle Twaddle blah blah rhubarb. I am not a number, I am a blancmange, or something…
A satisfying aspect of being a monarch would have been to have resources instantly directed to your ideas whenever you wanted. Unfortunately it seems in all societies all around the world, these ideas were focused on who they were going to invade next.
Mistakes are lessons, only when the reasons are noticed; otherwise they are habits practiced each day.
The things you disparage others for are often the same things you do yourself.
Anger. What a silly thing.
Is it of any use? Nope, it unbalances you.
The Orcs in the Lord of the Rings are driven by fury and are utterly useless at combat.
Energy from anger is polluted, destructive, counter-productive.
It can be used to instil fear, to incite others and to self-aggrandise, which is why it has been the emotion of choice by demagogues and sociopaths.
It is often learned as the default response to any frustration.
There is often anger at other people for not behaving as it is believed they should.
The reality however is that you have no real idea what has and is happening in the other person’s life you are judging.
The fact is you only ever see a tiny aspect of all the moving parts.
Challenges are opportunities for insight; the harder the situation the higher the view.
In the world of work, a meeting without creating an output of value is a drain on energy and time. Incessant thinking is the perpetual meeting in the head – if it is just going over and over the same issues without providing constructive insight, then it is pointless at best, destructive at worst. Outside this room of perpetual thinking is the freedom to notice and enjoy what is happening, instead of what you are imagining.
Never ever put yourself down.
- Some people will revel in doing it for you. For their sake as much as yours, don’t make the conditions easy for them.
- Don’t diminish life; whoever you are, you are amazing and unique.
- Faux modesty is dishonesty.
- Don’t insult other people’s good opinions.
- Be strong for others.
Some personal pep talk points:
- Be in a position to help.
- Your growth should enable others to grow too.
- This isn’t a zero-sum game.
- Relative measurements are irrelevant.
- Have fun!
A little target I’ve set myself is to make it to 100. Yes I know, quality is more important than quantity, and yes many of the factors are out of my control. I don’t take it too seriously but I like having something to aim towards.
The best way to be in good health is to be grateful for each day and appreciate the moments I am living – ironically this is a lot easier when in good health.
Noticing the aliveness of the body feels pleasurable and there is palpable relief if any tension is found and released. Mindfulness can be as simple as noticing the breathing.
I’ve been writing a thought a day here for the previous few days. I will flip now to an actual pen and paper because the closeness to the handwritten words feels more personal to me.
If you are truly happy, it is impossible to be petty, self-absorbed or unkind. Happiness lives in a much better place.
Cats and dogs are similar, only in that they both like living with you. Cats are beautiful, elegant, magical; it feels like you are honoured if they grace you with their attention. Dogs love you; all they want is to run and play, sniff things, eat food, and most importantly: your affection.
I form tears when I’m moved in any meaningful way – so if I produce them in a performance, I’m not pretending; I’m genuinely feeling what I’m doing.
I add to a file any interesting little phrases that occur to me, removing them later on if used in a song or other writing; for example, I just added: “A lived life transcends its genre.”
In retrospect similar phrases may grate on the ear with cheesiness but if I like the sentiment at the time, then it goes in.
The content is currently about 8,000 words.
If you choose to share in the happiness of others, rather than compulsively dwelling in negatives, then you have happiness for free.
I seem to get satisfaction out of pushing myself physically – maybe because in my mind I am subscribing to the motto “no pain, no gain”. A variation on the theme is that anything initially perceived as negative could be viewed as part of a greater improvement process.
Writing a screenplay for a romance story… it’s a bit sexy!
I might develop it into a novel later, if I can make the time.
- Most importantly: Trendline Syncing System (TSS) – an algorithmic trading model.
- First To 7 – strategy board game.
- Also: WIBAMU Easy Accounts – simple accounting system for small businesses.
Yes, many songs are online.
Some pieces are available but the bulk is within unfinished projects – would like to actually finish something substantial.
Yep, lots of recordings.
Yes, years of research and practice – looking to greatly expand this in the future by filming scenes and podcasts.
I know this is a strength but haven’t pursued it yet.
The old line with IT is if you want a problem fixed “turn it off then on again”. The reason is that resetting can untangle mixed-up memory and processes.
The mind if not switched-off will often relentlessly loop on the same set of thoughts, gradually wearing you down, sometimes with its own errors and fictions.
There are exercises that help you apply the IT solution, and they’ve worked for thousands of years.
Whenever you are talking about someone, assume they can hear every word. Hopefully this will remind you to be kinder.